Tag Archive: Motivational


I have not been very “Consistently Persistent” lately.  In fact I have fallen off the wagon over the past couple of months.  I was so inspired when I started this blog and I was even more inspired when I built and started pitching my website (www.OurHealthyVillage.com …Check it out! 😉 ) back in March.  I thought I would be an automatic success and I would be able to blog about it, maybe write a book and do some talks and help others achieve their goals… And then I realized delays and set backs.  I basically ran out of money to live off of while I was getting my website out there.  As a result I have had to put things on the back burner and work towards other aims just to get by….

But “this morning I woke up feeling brand new, I jumped up, feeling my highs and my lows, in my soul and my goals…”  I love Talib Kweli!

I started the day off with a quick meditation and took a walk.  While I walked I was listening to a Seth Godin podcast and Tom Ziglar, Zig Ziglar’s son, was being interviewed.  If you have never heard any of Zig Ziglar’s talks, I highly recommend that you check him out, especially if you are a fellow entrepreneur.  Very motivational.  Anyhow, so Tom Ziglar mentioned an idea of his dad’s which was the idea of being consistently persistent.  I looked inward and asked myself if I was truly being consistently persistent.  Just the fact that I haven’t written a blog in months answers that question.  So here I am, giving it another shot.

The best part of where I am sitting right now is the fact that I have experienced a great set back and a huge disappointment after spending so much time talking myself and my ideas for the website up to where I thought it was going to be too easy.  It has been a good reality check, but at the same time, to tell myself that I won’t back down, that I want to make this work, that I AM going to make this work… I am going to work towards being consistently persistent and success will just follow!

Thanks for reading and have a great day! 🙂

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Great Bill Cosby Quote!

Great Bill Cosby Quote!

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First off…Happy 2014 to all you beautiful people out in the ether!  This is my first post of the new year.  I have been on this 100 day challenge trip and it has been going quite well!  I have been getting my ars kicked at Crossfit every day, but it’s cool!  It’s all for the greater good, right?!  So when I am on the treadmill working out the cardio aspect of my regiment I listen to this really amazing podcast called “The Tropical MBA Podcast.”  It is a very informative podcast about entrepreneurship and building a business based on the type of lifestyle you want to live.  I highly recommend it!

Anyhow, today I was listening to the podcast and the subject was things we can learn from former guests of the show and all other entrepreneurs, really.  They kicked the show off by sharing what we can learn from the teachings of the great Notorious BIG…I am telling you, these guys are brilliant!  I wanted to share with you what Dan and Ian of Tropical MBA were saying about the 10 Crack Commandments and how they apply to entrepreneurship…

 

The 10 Crack Commandments 

 

1. “Never let no one know how much dough you hold”

Never brag about that money…

 

2. “Never let ’em know your next move”

Don’t talk about your future plans…

 

3. “Never trust nobody”

It’s not validated unless they’ve paid you money…

 

4. “Never get high on your own supply”

Don’t believe your hype…

 

5. “Never sell no crack where you rest at”

Home offices aren’t always a great idea…

 

6. “That credit…Dead it! You think a crackhead paying you back…Forget it!”

Net 30 is for suckas…

 

7. “This rule is so underrated. Keep your family and business completely separated”

Your brother is not that good of a developer anyway…

 

8. “Never keep no weight on you”

It’s best not to resolve your internal company conflicts on the social media outlets… 

 

9. “Number 9 shoulda been number 1 to me: If you ain’t gettin’ bagged, stay the #$&* away  

     from police”

Don’t link your business name to your google accounts…

 

10. “If you ain’t got the clientele, say “h@#$ no!”

If you purchase inventory before your customers ordered the product, you’re in deep trouble…

 

Some wise words from Biggie, Ian and Dan!  Check out that podcast and I wish everyone luck on your business building endeavors in 2014!

The Thing About Love…

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The thing about love…It’s crazy what it makes you do and think.  How we behave, how we see ourselves, how we change through it and for it.  I’ve been in love…many times.  That one time I committed to marriage, for nine years.  Gave those years to that one person.  The one that meant so much before I was old enough to even know what that truly meant.  But still I rode it out, until it died that slow, quiet death.  When you come to the point where the passion has been gone for so long and there is nothing else holding on to you and you can finally look at that person and honestly say “we did the best we could, but it was over quite a few years ago.”  And then there was the rebound…It was a passionate love, accompanied by the notion that I was not going to make the same mistakes that I made with my marriage.  I vowed to myself that I was going to be fierce and express what I want and not settle for less.  He loved that openness  and honesty and passion.  It was nothing he had ever known before, and it scared him.  A love without the typical complications?  It couldn’t be real!  Years after the demise of that love, he still sends me messages every year when he is intoxicated and is reminded by the loneliness of the holidays. and I appreciate those moments of the residual emotions…And then there was the most profound love.  I could write a book on what love should look like based on this one.  But circumstances supposedly pulled it apart.  I decided to be more honest, than fierce.  To really give myself up to the one, and be me completely for him.  It seemed perfect, unhindered, at first.  This grand love was not to be so.  Full of deceit and fear on both his part as well as mine.  Cherishing so much what it was, I almost would’ve told myself anything to believe it was right…All in all, what I did learn is that true love is not created with or for someone else.  True love is the love one has for themselves.  True love is when one does not need the reassurance, or affirmation, or accommodation of others.  It is once you are so sound and comfortable with being in a room by yourself, hearing your own voice, and developing a positive and healthy relationship with the inner chatter that you can actually learn to appreciate the company with another human being, hopefully with another human being that appreciates there own inner dialogue just the same.  So my advice to you, keep practicing loving and accepting.  Be kind to yourself.  Be passionate about all that is around you, all that you are about and eventually you will find the one that is equally as passionate about you.  Namaste! 🙂

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I am not sure if I am subconsciously seeking out these particular ebooks, podcasts, emails and articles, or if it is some magical synchronicity or if we are all on the same page and this is just what is trending…OR, as 2013 comes to a close, we are all reading and writing about how to make 2014 the most successful year of our lives…But today has been a very inspiring day for me!

It all started with an online coupon I found for the local cross fit center, a one month unlimited trial for $39, which for anyone who is familiar with cross fit, you know this is a steal!  So I decided I have to give it a shot… Later on, I was listening to my favorite podcast “The Lifestyle Business” and the hosts were talking about being productive and focusing on more creative, content and lead generating work as oppose to doing busy work like checking email and Facebook… Apparently I am not alone in thinking it is far too easy to fall into this trap considering all the software out there meant to time you out of your Facebook sesh, in case you do not have the will power yourself.

Then this evening I stumbled upon this awesome Twitter profile that has vowed to tweet three times a day, everyday, in regard to their trials and tribulations in building successful apps.  And finally, to top it all off, I received an email about a 100 day challenge, plan out goals and work everyday for 100 days and start this next year out right!  I feel like something is trying to tell me something!  Ok then, 100 Day Challenge it is!

I am warming up right now but I will officially kick it off January 2nd.  I do not want to call this a “New Years Resolution” because there are so many negative feelings surrounding that label.  What I really want to accomplish is the development of better habits and focus on a more healthy, effective, efficient lifestyle.  So I have devised a list of goals for the first 100 days (minus January 1st just because that is a re-coop day! 😉 ) of 2014…

I would get into the details of my list but I would imagine we all have our own list and no one really cares to hear about mine specifically, but I will say that it involves looking at how I spend my waking hours and making sure that every waking hour is spent bettering myself in some way, which will in turn positively affect my business building, and family raising efforts….And burpees at 5 am!  I will also blog about my progress to keep myself in check and make sure I stay committed to what I am saying while I am in such a great mood! 🙂

And if you want, we can do this together!  It just makes sense to focus on the first quarter and set the precedence for the rest of the year.  So let’s do this!  Let’s make 2014 huge!

The Magic of Twitter!

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Throughout my journey into the wide open spaces of social media I have read and learned first hand that it is a daunting task to jump into the sea of comments, likes, and shares!  So many posts, articles and studies to read!  And how exactly am I suppose to acquire followers?  How am I suppose to be heard?  I also heard that successful entrepreneurs started with a mentor early on.  How do I find a mentor?

It seemed to me that anyone who has enjoyed any substantial level of success more than likely has so many people pining for their time and attention.  The idea of simply hitting up a grand and powerful CEO to ask for some golden nugget of advice would be virtually impossible.  But I kept plugging away.  Reading through tweets, marking favorite, and occasionally making a comment or two.

One night I caught a new tweet from a TED_ED Brain Trust educator/entrepreneur, who tweeted about listening to Carlos Santana while battling jet lag…Wait! So successful, jet setting entrepreneurs are people too?…So I commented on his music selection, not even thinking that this person would have the time or the interest in replying…But he did!  Norris Krueger, a scholar, replied to my comment!  Now for those of you savvy in the social media Universe, this may not be a big deal to you, but to me, this was the jump off!  This was the moment that I realized I can connect with anyone, anywhere in the world!  I can learn from and network along side major players in the game!  Twitter is the even playing ground!  Then it dawned on me that Mr. Krueger has damn near 150,000 followers, the likes of Brian Tracy and Guy Kawasaki!  Oh, all the potential friends and connections to be made!

This gave me an extra boost, extra motivation to really get to know the twitter community!  I have only been really working on building a network on Twitter for about a month or so and I already have about 200 followers (insert plug…Follow me @tolbert_martyne) ;).  May not be much but I feel it is a good start!  Plus, I am following over 600 of the most interesting people and trying to gain as much knowledge and wisdom as I possibly can.  I see the advantages in connecting on Twitter.  Give it a shot, if you haven’t already.  It’s a magical thing!  And I’ll see you out in the ether!

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I had heard that so long as you could spell entrepreneur, then you’re in!  Oh, all the lovely fantasies about being your own boss, making your own schedule, creating something, impacting other people’s lives, starting a movement, AND the vacations you will take!  I have already purchased my dream home…in my mind!  The idea of financial freedom is so incredible!  E-N-T-R-E-P-R-E-N-E-U-R!!!!!  Sign me up!

So I went ahead and made the decision and completely abandoned the idea of ever getting a real job again.  I have read countless books, articles, and magazines!  I have subscribed to countless podcasts and newsletter!  I’ve got my dream board up on my wall and I stare at it in a meditative state as I channel all my energy into manifesting my dream life.  I can see it so clearly I can almost touch it!  And of course I’ve read Napoleon Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich”…THREE times now!  So as far as I know, I have completely prepped my psyche for being an innovative entrepreneur that is really going to make a difference in this world!  At this point I am ready to get to it!  I’ve been studying and planning…now it’s time to start DOING!

Now there is no turning back!  I’m making that leap!… So now what do I do?  All that research…surely I would know what to do first!  And then it struck me!  I am my own boss, I make my own schedule and what that means is I do not have anyone to tell me what my deadline is and I do not have anyone to answer to.  I have no one else’s expectations to meet but my own.  I have to keep myself motivated, and inspired and constantly remind myself of my purpose and that everything will be ok!

We go our entire lives being told what to do and when to do it.  Suddenly entrepreneurship became a little frightening!  Like being thrown out in the deep end of the pool, not knowing how to swim and having to just figure it out as you go.  And what happens when the inevitable big mistake or failure rears it’s ugly head?  A moment that most all successful entrepreneurs say is important to embrace, by the way…Fantastic!  It is up to you to pick yourself up and dust yourself off and keep it movin’!

I took a deep breath and told myself I am just going to take it one day at a time.  I’m going to keep my eye on the prize and continue to research my questions and concerns as they come up, after all Google does know everything!

When I start to get overwhelmed or discouraged I think about the Napoleon Hills, the Henry Fords, the Thomas Edisons, the Soichiro Hondas and the some 85% of successful entrepreneurs who started from the bottom.  I also think about all the resources available to me today.  There is absolutely no reason to not, at very least, give it a shot!  And one last thought…

“Tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.”

–     Alfred Lord Tennyson

I do not want to wonder what could’ve been.  So here I go!  I’m going to take the plunge!  I’m all in!

Entrepreneurship…I do!

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So my good friend, Shalene, came across a contest through a talk show that she follows and told me about it.  The contest was to pitch a great business idea and win a $20,000 prize!  She suggested I give it a shot.  To begin with, it was such a great feeling knowing that one of my dear friends had such faith in me and my business venture.  So I was on my way, seeking out my 15 minutes of fame!

The contest was sponsored by Skype and the idea was to use Skype to send a quick video message explaining my business idea.  I was so inspired!  I wrote out a script, rehearsed it about 50 times, I set up a lovely backdrop behind me, and logged onto Skype.  It was so great because it gave me an opportunity to really get my message direct, precise and to the point in less than two minutes…Click Send!  And wait…and wait…and wait some more!

I meditated on it for days!  I visualized what it will be like to sit on the couch and be interviewed by the show’s host.  I had read somewhere that to really program your thoughts and subconscious chatter, it is a good trick to write down what your burning desire is.  Everyday, I wrote “I won $20,000” about thirty times in my journal and then read it back.  I was in the zone!  Like an Olympic athlete, I visualized exactly how it was all going to go down!  Then I started thinking to myself, if I only have fifteen minutes of fame, what could I say to fully utilize my short time and truly impact my life, impact others lives, impact the world?!  I mean, in my mind, I was absolutely going to be placed in front of a million+ viewers!  How incredible it would be to be on that platform and not to mention how $20,000 would catapult my health and wellness internet company to the next level!  I was really pumping myself up!  My heart and mind was spinning!  My daily attitude was so positive, people noticed the extra pep in my step!  I was planning on hanging on to this feeling for the rest of my life, it felt so good…And I hadn’t even won yet!…

SO, the waiting was over, and the results were in.  I was not one of the three finalists.  My business involves connecting local businesses that offer health and wellness solutions with the community, all with the hopes to raise up the local economy collectively.  My plan is to increase social awareness and health consciousness.  Really make an honest and sincere difference in this world!  What I did not consider was the premise of the talk show and the audience.

This talk show focused more on finding the best fashion trends, the best wrinkle cream and the how-to’s such as how-to please your husband, how-to get your kids to school on time and still look good doing it!  All important subjects to many people, but may not be quite the audience or more importantly the atmosphere conducive for my particular genre.  Regardless, this was a great, eye-opening experience for me as a budding entrepreneur!

I learned many things!  For one, it is all about the market segment, the audience.  I know now that I need to be very aware as to who I am speaking to and at what time of the day it is.  Certain times of the day we may be a fashionista, car-pooling mothers and at other times we are health nuts looking to find a great yoga instructor.  So yes, market awareness is crucial!

The other lesson I learned is that a good positive attitude and a definite purpose does wonders!  Visualizing the end result and being at that peak energetic level makes the creation of any project or business venture that much more exciting and invigorating!  So many business gurus and motivational writers and speakers such as Tony Robbins, Brian Tracy, Les Brown, Earl Nightingale, Jim Rohn, Napoleon Hill (and the list goes on) all send out a similar messages.  Develop a burning, undeniable desire and visualize the desired results until you accomplish your goals.  I vow to myself that I will not stop and I will continue to be excited and preserver and know that my success is inevitable!

 Know that your success is inevitable as well!  Go out there and achieve your dreams and goals!  In the words of one of the greatest bands of all time, Journey, “Don’t Stop Believing!”

Homeless…In a BMW

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I walk through this beautiful park in my neighborhood everyday on my way to the gym.  It’s set in suburbia land amongst grand victorian homes and new custom homes that range from $500,000-$800,000. The town is a little gem in the Inland Empire of Southern California, populated by some of the highly esteemed Doctors, Lawyers, and Entrepreneurs in the region.  It is very unusual to find a vagrant roaming the streets.  I grew up in this quaint town, and although my family certainly wasn’t anywhere near the upper echelon, I did attend high school with kids who drove raised trucks, supped up Camaros and sporty BMWs…

As I walked through this exceptionally manicured park I noticed a BMW SUV in the parking lot, jam packed full of boxes and luggage.  Initially I didn’t think much of it.  The first thought that crossed my mind was that these people were on a camping trip.  I didn’t consider any other explanation, even though the park does not have any sort of camp site area, I mean come on…It’s a BMW!

A week later I saw the same SUV in the parking lot.  I walked slowly past (unseen by the occupants, at a bit of a distance) and really investigated what was going on just because I was perplexed.  A young family emerged from the very tightly packed car.  A father got out and grabbed a stroller and then went to the backseat to grab his little one out of the car.  The mother opened up the back hatch and started pulling boxes out in search of something.  It then dawned on me this wasn’t a family going on a family camping trip, nor were they just moving into town, being that their car was in the same condition a week later.

It suddenly struck me that none of us are immune to the prospect of falling to such a horrible fate.  It has been said that most all Americans are one illness away from bankruptcy.  I may have misinterpreted the situation but it made me think about thinking twice the next time I see a homeless person or the next time I am asked for money.  I am going to make a point to give whenever I am asked because many of us aimlessly blow $5 here $10 there and to a person down on their luck that $10 means the world to them.  It means no longer worrying about how to get that next meal, and my problems aren’t nearly that bad.

I feel we really need to make a shift in our awareness and recognize how important it is to look after our fellow man.  Not every homeless person is a junky, clouded by a lifetime of bad decisions and if this family is in fact homeless, living in a BMW, they are a testament that sometimes bad things happen to people who at one point had the ambition to at least be in the position to purchase a BMW.  Just another reason why we need to work on building that healthy village together!  Let’s stand up for each other!  Let’s brainstorm together on how to fight this growing epidemic of extensive unemployment, homelessness and disconnect form community!  This is my “call to action” because there are far too many beautiful minds out there, wasting away worrying about where they are going to sleep and how they are going to get there next meal.